Jun 10

In divorce the personality of the attorney matters

Attorney’s Personality Impacts Results

If you are thinking about filing for divorce or you are responding to an action filed by your spouse, you should carefully select the attorney who you want to represent you. While you certainly want an attorney who is competent and one who has a great deal of experience in handling divorce actions, those are not the only criteria to consider. The attorney’s personality and approach to handling a divorce case can make a great deal of difference to how the case will proceed even though he or she is only one piece of the puzzle.
Some people believe that they are represented best if their attorney is very aggressive. In certain cases and with certain people that approach may work, but in the majority of cases that approach is counterproductive. Emotions can, and often do, run high in a divorce action. Having an attorney who stokes the fire of those emotions because his or her approach only serves to increase the tension and fees; not the best result for the couple involved.
An attorney whose approach is one of seeking solutions rather than creating new issues or escalating old ones helps to make the process less stressful. Going through a divorce is stressful enough under the best of circumstances without having the behavior of one of the professionals involved making it more so.
Couples going through divorce who have children – whether those children are young or adults – need to keep in mind that they will continue to be parents long after the divorce is granted. The approach the couple and their attorneys take has future consequences for the couple and their children. Were things done or said during the case that set the stage for a future where communication and trust are hard to come by? When the attorneys and clients met together, were problem-solving techniques modeled and used so that the couple had a framework for dealing with future conflict? Was communication between the couple encouraged and resources suggested to help them learn how to communicate as parents in two households?
After the case ends, the clients, children, and extended family continue to interact whether by necessity or choice. The personality and approach of the professionals involved in the case can have an impact on how those future interactions will play out.